I’m the main caregiver and I never get a break. I’m so stressed… is that actually a problem?

November 2025

Yes. It is a real problem. And no, you are not alone.

When your family is affected by dementia, it is very common for one person to take on the lion’s share of the work. At first, this may feel like the only option. You are stepping in, doing what needs to be done, making sure a parent or partner is safe. But over time, something happens. Your own well-being starts to disappear from the picture. You stop checking in on how you are doing and the stress builds up. 

Here’s the truth. Caregiver stress is not just a feeling. It is a health risk. Studies show that caregivers are significantly more likely to experience depression, anxiety and chronic physical health problems. When you are constantly in a state of tension, your body and mind pay a price. This price is real, even if you have learned to downplay it. 

Let’s be clear about one thing. This is not a sign of weakness. This is what happens when strong, caring people are put in a demanding situation for too long without support. And it is why we talk so much at Lizzy Care about making sure caregivers get the help they need. Because what you are doing is extraordinary. But no one can pour from an empty cup.

As they say on an airplane: put your oxygen mask on first before assisting others around you. Meaning, when you are safe you are able to help others more effectively than when you are struggling, too.

Taking care of yourself is not selfish. It is essential. Rest is not a luxury. It is part of good care. You matter just as much as the person you are caring for, and there is help available. If you are feeling overwhelmed, talk to your Lizzy Care navigator about how we can support you. You might benefit from scheduled respite through the GUIDE program, a weekly break with a companion, or help connecting to a support group. Even something as simple as a regular walk, a doctor’s appointment for yourself, or time to breathe can make a real difference. You do not have to carry this alone.

Each month, Dr. Marc Rothman, our CEO and a seasoned geriatric expert, addresses your concerns, providing practical advice and compassionate solutions to the challenges faced by those caring for loved ones with dementia. Whether you’re looking for strategies to manage daily care routines or need clarity on medical aspects of dementia, Dr. Marc is here to help. Join us to explore his responses to community questions and submit your own queries to deepen your understanding and enhance your caregiving journey.

If there’s a question you’d like to ask Dr. Marc send it to us.